Lesson of the day

I am still working on my list of goals, but wanted to share some things that I have recently learned. There was nothing specific that happened that made me come to this realization, just a part of my learning experience that furthers my spiritual growth.

My husband is a huge football fan; to the point of obsession. I feel that I literally lose my husband for 6 months of every year. Case in point: Today is a Saturday, my husband went to Orange County, to a sports bar to watch a football game with a friend. The game was at 1 pm. He left at 11:30 am, got home about 5 pm and worked on a trailer that we will be taking to a football game in Tucson next week. I grilled burgers and we sat down to watch a movie, but then his friend came over to watch another game that started at 7:30 pm. So we turned the movie off and I went into my room.

The game I mentioned in Tucson next week is a big deal to him. Actually EVERY game is a big deal to him. I agreed to go with him only if he would meditate with me. I think it would do him good and maybe teach him to get quiet and be a little more peaceful. Of course, he has yet to actually meditate with me, so they dilemma is...do I refuse to go to the game, or blow it off, after all a deal is a deal.

I realized today that he won't meditate with me, nor will I ask him to again. If he brings it up, then I will be happy to sit in my lotus position and say "Ohm", but I know it won't happen. If he is forced to do it, it will not have any meaning to him, and it is not fair for me to put a condition on what he enjoys so much. Either I need to be on board or not, but that is about me, not coercing something out of him. So this time I will go and have fun and see family and try not to hate the long drive too much.

My lesson of the day: Putting conditions on things, which we all do, does not benefit anyone, so I will try not to do that again. If I agree to do something or go somewhere, it must be because I am willing to do it without anything in return.